31 May, 2007

Drink Coconut Water


Why Drink Coconut Water?

CocoWater is naturally:

  • Low in Carbs
  • 99% Fat Free
  • Low in sugars

Coconut Water contains organic compounds possessing healthy growth promoting properties that have been known to help -

  • Keep the body cool and at the proper temperature.
  • Orally re-hydrate your body, it is an all natural isotonic beverage.
  • Carry nutrients and oxygen to cells.
  • Naturally replenish your body's fluids after exercising.
  • Raise your metabolism.
  • Promote weight loss.
  • Boost your immune system.
  • Detoxify and fight viruses.
  • Cleanse your digestive tract.
  • Control diabetes.
  • Aid your body in fighting viruses that cause the flu, herpes, and AIDS.
  • Balance your PH and reduce risk of cancer.
  • Treat kidney and urethral stones.
  • Boost poor circulation.

Coconut Water -
The English name coconut, first mentioned in English print in 1555, comes from Spanish and Portugese word coco, which means "monkey face." Spanish and Portugese explorers found a resemblance to a monkey's face in the three round indented markings or "eyes" found at the base of the coconut. On the Nicobar Islands of the Indian Ocean, whole coconuts were used as currency for the purchace of goods until the early part of the twentieth century.

Coconuts are the fruit of the coconut palm, botanically known as cocos nucifera, with nucifera meaning "nut-bearing." The fruit-bearing palms are native to Malaysia, Polynesia and southern Asia, and are now also prolific in South America, India , the Pacific Islands , Hawaii and Florida. The light, fibrous husk allowed it to easily drift on the oceans to other areas to propagate. In Sanskrit, the coconut palm is known as kalpa vriksha, meaning "tree which gives all that is necessary for living," since nearly all parts of the tree can be used in some m anner or another. The coconut itself has many food uses, including milk, meat, sugar and oil as well as functioning as its own dish and cup. The husk was also burned for fuel by natives, but today a seed fibre called coir is taken from the husk and used to make brushes, mats, fishnets, and rope. A very potent fermented toddy or drink is also made from the coconut palm's sap. Coconut oil, a saturated fat made from dried coconut meat, is used for commercial frying and in candies and margarines, as well as in non-edible products such as soaps and cosmetics.

Although it takes up to a year for coconuts to mature, the trees bloom up to thirteen times a year, so fruit is constantly forming yielding a continuous harvest year-round. An average harvest from one tree runs about 60 coconuts, with some trees yielding three times that amount. The coconut's name is a bit of a misnomer, since it is botanically classified as a drupe and not a nut. It is the largest seed known.

If you've ever opened a fresh coconut, you will have seen the thin, opaque almost clear coconut juice or water which has a slight almond flavor. Contrary to popular belief, this is not the coconut milk. However, the water is consumed as a drink fresh from the coconut by many, and it can also be used in recipes.

Here are some more information about Coconut Water -
"It's a natural isotonic beverage, with the same level of electrolytic balance as we have in our blood. It's the fluid of life, so to speak." In fact, during the Pacific War of 1941-45, both sides in the conflict regularly used coconut water - siphoned directly from the nut - to give emergency plasma transfusions to wounded soldiers.

Most coconut water is still consumed fresh in tropical coastal areas - once exposed to air, the liquid rapidly loses most of its organoleptic and nutritional characteristics, and begins to ferment.

  • Coconut Water is More Nutritious than whole milk - Less fat and NO cholesterol.
  • Coconut Water is More Healthy than Orange Juice - Much lower calories.
  • Coconut Water is Better than processed baby milk - It contains lauric acid, which is present in human mother's milk.
  • Coconut water is naturally sterile - Water permeates though the filtering husk.
  • Coconut water is a universal donor - Its identical to human blood plasma.
  • Coconut Water is a Natural Isotonic Beverage - The same level we have in our blood.
  • Coconut water has saved lives in 3rd world countries thru Coconut IV.

"Coconut water is the very stuff of Nature, biologically Pure, full of Natural Sugars, Salts, and Vitamins to ward off fatigue and is the next wave of energy drinks BUT natural", according to Mortin Satin, Chielf of the United Nation's Food & Agriculture Organization.
Coconut water contains more potassium (at about 294 mg) than most sports drinks (117 mg) and most energy drinks.

  • Coconut water has less sodium (25mg) where sports drinks have around 41mg and energy drinks have about 200 mg.
  • Coconut water has 5mg of Natural Sugars where sports and energy drinks range from 10-25mg of Altered Sugars.
  • Coconut water is very high in Chloride at 118mg, compared to sports drinks at about 39mg.
    Data is based on a 100ml drink

29 May, 2007

Love Quotes Collection

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  • Love, like a river, will cut a new path whenever it meets an obstacle.
  • To live without loving is to not really live.
  • As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral. As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product.
  • Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other.
  • Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you: I had no control over.
  • No love, no friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.
  • Harmonizing heart and brain through love is what can establish a complete intelligence, a complete self, where a child can look at life and realize there are no dead ends, there are always possibilities. The greatest gift a parent can give a child during all the ups and downs of life is love.
  • The quarrels of lovers are like summer storms. Everything is more beautiful when they have passed.
  • Love is like a mustard seed; planted by God and watered by men.
  • Love conquers all things; let us too surrender to love.
  • Love is born of faith, Lives on hope, And dies of charity.
  • Love is when you're in their arms and everything just fits.
  • I don't want to live-- I want to love first, And live incidentally.
  • There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
  • Love is something eternal, The aspect may change, But not the essence.
  • Love is like a thread, slender and frail, but when woven together with another creates a sail which carries the ship of the heart to its sea of endless love, together.
  • You know you are in love when you see the world in her eyes, and her eyes everywhere in the world.
  • Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
  • You are the brightest part of my day and the warmest part of my night.
  • Love is strong yet delicate. It can be broken. To truly love is to understand this. To be in love is to respect this.
  • I love you simply because it's you..
  • When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
  • Love is the best medicine, and there is more than enough to go around once you open your heart.
  • Love cannot only be found in the good times, but also when are able to stay strong after a storm.
  • Our true identity is to love without fear and insecurity. Our higher potential finds us when we set our course in that direction. The power of love and compassion transforms insecurity.
  • Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more
    than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner.
  • Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love, because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall.
  • Love is not automatic. It takes conscious practice and awareness, just like playing the piano or golf. However, you have ample opportunities to practice. Everyone you meet can be your practice session.
  • We sat side by side in the morning light and looked out at the future together.
  • Love isn't just for the smart of talented, but for all the amimals God created.
  • Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.
  • True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
  • Love is like a mountain, hard to climb, but once you get to the top the view is beautiful.
  • Love is fire. But whether it's gonna warm your heart or burn your house down you can never tell.
  • It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and an day to love someone..
    but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
  • There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
  • Love is not blind - It sees more and not less, but because it sees more it is willing to see less.
  • In order to create there must be a dynamic force, and what force is more potent than love?
  • It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else, but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.
  • If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was, and always will be yours. If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.
  • Love is like the sun coming out of the clouds and warming your soul.
  • Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
  • If love is the answer, can you please repeat the question ?
  • Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.
  • To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
  • Faith makes all things possible. Love makes them easy.
  • Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much perfoms much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.
  • Love is smiling on the inside and out. Love is a moment that lasts forever.
  • To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.
  • I believe that to truly Love, is the ultimate expression of the will to live. A heart that truly loves is forever young.
  • Love isn't blind; it just only sees what matters.
  • In all that we do let us do it for love.
  • Love makes life so confusing, but without love would you really want to live?
  • You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
  • Love that is true never grows old.
  • Love is friendship set on fire.
  • Do you love me because I am beautiful or am I beautiful because I am loved?
  • Love is the force that ignites the spirit and binds teams together.
  • Love reminds you that nothing else matters.
  • Where there is great love there are always miracles.
  • Love me now, love me never, but if you love me, love me forever.
  • To love is to place our happiness in the happiness of another.
  • A Friend's Love says: " If you ever need anything, I'll be there." True Love says: " You'll never need anything; I'll be there."
  • Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.
  • Three things of life that are most valuable - Love, self-confidence & friends.
  • Loves conquers all things except poverty and toothache.
  • Love is a decision not an emotion or feeling, that if made from the heart will outlast anything.
  • Love and magic have a great deal in common. They enrich the soul, delight the heart. And they both take practice.
  • Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell.
  • Love is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction.
  • Love is more than a feeling; it's a state of mind.
  • He taught me how to love, but not how to stop.
  • Love is like a blazing flame, golden and full of warmth.
  • In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.
  • Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal.
  • Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notions of time; effaces all memory of beginning, all fear of an end.
  • The most important things to do in the world are to get something to eat, something to drink and somebody to love you
  • We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
  • A bell is not a bell until someone rings it, a song is not a song until someone sings it.
  • Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.
  • Many a young lady does not realize just how strong her love for a young man is until he fails to pass the approval test with her parents.
  • What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.
  • Love wasn't put in the heart to stay, for love isn't love 'til you give it away.
  • Is it better for a woman to marry a man who loves her than a man she loves.
  • Love is like a piece of art work, even the smallest bit can be so beautiful.
  • No one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
  • Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can: all of them make me laugh.
  • Love is sweet, delicate, dreamy an eternity of gorgeous moments.
  • Where there is love, there is God also.
  • Romance is the fuel that keeps love burning hot.
  • The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
  • Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
  • Love, The key that unlocks the bars of impossibility.
  • Love cures people -- both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.
  • No matter what, no matter where, it's always home, if love is there.
  • Real love is feeling like being a part of that person's life almost isn't enough. It's more like a feeling that you would live in the same skin with them if you could and share every thought, heart beat, and emotion as one.
  • One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.
  • Love is when you look into someone's eyes and see their heart.
  • When they asked me what I loved most about life, I smiled and said you.
  • Love is something you can't describe like the look of a rose, the smell of the rain, or the feeling of forever.

28 May, 2007

Dark Eye Circles - Tips



Under Eye Dark Circles - Treatment Tips

Causes-
Dark unsightly circles around the eyes can leave you looking ill, haggard and depressed. While there can be many causes for dark eye circles, the upshot is that you end up looking older than you probably are. Look for ways to camouflage the dark under eye circles. Find out simple home remedies to reduce the dark under eye circles and add sparkle to your eyes.

Dark Eye Circle -
The skin below our eyes is thin and is not as well endowed with oil glands as the rest of the body. Consequently as we age, the skin gets dry and wrinkled. As a result, the veins in the lower eye area appear more prominent. This results in dark circles under the eyes. There are many factors that lead to dark circles.

Heredity – Dark under eye circles are often an inherited trait. Those who are prone to allergies or itchy skin condition are susceptible to dark circles since inflammation and rubbing of eyes can thicken and darken the skin around them. Some food allergies can also cause the area under the eyes to appear darker. Excess folds of skin under the eyes will also make dark circles more pronounced.

Lack of Sleep – Lack of sleep and fatigue can cause the skin to grow wan and pale. This makes blood vessels under the eyes to appear more visible and dark. The paleness that occurs with fatigue, a cold or sinus infection or during menstruation or pregnancy may accentuate the circles under the eyes. Partying all night and smoking can play havoc with your skin and result in dark eye circles.

Bone Structure – Deep set eyes may have a tendency to develop dark shadows under them. In fair-skinned persons, dark eyes become more obvious.

Sun Exposure – Increased exposure to the sun can draw pigmentation the skin’s surface and create dark circles.

Medication – Drugs that cause blood vessels to dilate may result in darkening circles around the eyes.

Nutrition – Dark circle around the eyes can be the result of poor nutrition.

Hormonal Changes – Since the skin undergoes changes during pregnancy and menstruation, you may notice darkening of the circles under the eyes.

Combat Dark Eye Circles -
Combat dark circles under your eyes with simple tips:

  1. Drink nearly 10 glasses of water everyday.
  2. Ensure that you get good rest and adequate sleep.
  3. Eat vegetables and fruits rich in vitamin A.
  4. Consume a nutritionally balanced diet.

Tips 1: Grate 2' piece of cucumber. Squeeze through a muslin cloth and extract the juice. Dip cotton pads in this and place on eyelids. Relax for 15 minutes.
Tips 2: Take 1 tspn Tomato pulp,1 pinch of Turmeric powder ½ tspn of limejuice and 1 tspn of gram flour. Make a paste and apply gently. Remove gently with moist cotton pads after ½ an hour.
Tips 3: Soak 2 Almonds overnight. Peel and grind to a smooth paste. Add a few drops of limejuice to this Apply for 20-25 minutes. This should be followed daily and gradually after 2 weeks, every 3rd day and finally when the difference is visible, to once aeek. A paste of Almonds can be stored in a clean bottle in the 'fridge.
Tips 4: Apply a paste made by crushing a handful of Mint leaves.

  • Dip wads of cotton in a chilled mixture of cucumber and potato juice. Keep this on your eyelids for 15 to 20 minutes and gently wash it off. Apply a little baby oil.
  • For long eyelashes, apply a thin coat of castor oil every night. It strengthens lashes and cools your eyes.
  • Massage a few drops of coconut oil around the eyes to get rid off dark circles.
  • To reduce puffiness of your eyes, grate a potato; tie in a cloth and place the cloth over your eyes for about 15 minutes.
  • Add a small pinch of salt in water and wash for bright and sparkling eyes.
  • Mix tomato juice and lemon juice in equal quantity and apply around the eyes. After 30 minutes wash it off with cold and hot water alternatively.
  • Make a paste of sandal wood and nutmeg. Apply the paste around the eyes before sleeping and wash it off in the morning.
  • Crush a cucumber and take the juice. Add a little rose water and apply around the eyes and wash it after 30 minutes.
  • Place cotton wool swabs dipped in cold milk on closed eyes for removing dark circles.

Treatments & Remedies -

  1. Dark Circles can be removed by applying peeled and grated potato overnight at least three times a week.
  2. Make cotton pads and dip them in cucumber juice. Place on your eyes for 15 minutes. The effect is cooling and relaxes your eyes.
  3. Massaging eyes with almond oil is of great help. Massage at bed time daily, and in two weeks you will see the difference.
  4. Dark circles can be removed by doing pranayam daily for at least five minutes.
  5. Pressing the mount below index finger of the palm is good for eyesight and removing dark circles.
  6. When stressed, keep your eyes covered with cucumber slices for some time.
  7. Dip cotton balls in rose water and keep for 5-10 minutes. Drink as much water as you can drink.
  8. Dip cotton balls in chilled water and keep for 5-10 minutes on the eyes.
  9. Take a diet rich in fruits and vegetables and avoid reading late at night, lying down.
  10. Every morning, after washing your face, gently apply mixture of equal parts of tomato and lime juice; wash after half an hour.
  11. Alternate hot and cold compresses under your eyes for 10 minutes. Then apply a teaspoon of almond oil mixed with half teaspoon of lime juice on the dark surface every night before going to bed.
  12. For cooling effect to eyes paste of the herb nutmeg (Jaiphala) made with milk may be applied all around the eyes and over the eyelids.


Home Remedies - Probably the most popular home remedy for dark eye circles is to apply slices of raw potato or cucumber over the eyelids for about 15 minutes. Grated raw potato wrapped in cheesecloth can also be used. Potatoes contain catecholase, an enzyme that is used as a skin lightener in many cosmetics. You can apply freshly grated cucumber or the resultant juice over the eyes to lighten the area. Almonds are considered excellent skin food and it is believed that a paste of almonds applied over the eyes for about 10 minutes can go a long way in reducing dark under eye bags. Alternatively you can apply rich almond oil under the eyes. Vitamin E or olive oil is also regularly used in treating dark circles around the eyes. Another popular home remedy for dark eye circles is to place cool, used tea bags on the tired eyes. Applying crushed mint leaves around the eyes can also reduce dark circles.

Creams - Topical creams that have Vitamin K derivatives are prescribed for reducing dark eye circles. Antioxidant products containing Vitamins C and E are known to stimulate fibroblast activity in the dermal layer and help firm up the skin. This can greatly reduce baggy eyes that are dark and sagging. Over-the-counter products containing kinetin or AHA are available for regular use to reduce severe under eye circles. Chemical peels may be effective in reducing chronic dark eye circles.

Makeup - Using an under eye concealer is the best way to hide the unsightly dark circles. Do not choose a shade that is much lighter than your skin tone else it will accentuate the baggy dark circles. Dab concealer gently under the eyes and blend it with the foundation. The inner corner of your eye is usually the darkest part, so ensure that it is well concealed. Rev up your tired looking eyes with gold-based concealers. Avoid mascara and eyeliner to the lower lashes for fear of drawing attention to the dark under eye circles.

27 May, 2007

Switch Job?


Planning to Switch Job?

You spend a large percentage of your waking hours at your job. How happy are you there? Will you be happier in a new job? To switch or not to switch is the perennial question many of us face today.

If your job isn't working for you, don't panic or take it personally. A large percentage of employees switch jobs in such conditions. "If you're not thrilled about your current situation, you should be actively interviewing with other companies. It's much easier -- both emotionally, and from a negotiation standpoint," says Mohit Kesarwani, 26, a unit manager with ICICI Bank.

But, before you reach that decision, it is important to evaluate certain aspects:

Are you a chronic job-switcher?
"Whether it's for a good reason or bad, switching jobs is extremely common nowadays, especially in some professions -- software for example. The days when people kept only one job throughout their lives are gone. Today, the average CV usually contains several moves, especially early on in a career. In fact, it's even considered unambitious to spend too many years in one job," says Manisha Dutt, 29, a manager with a software firm in Gurgaon.

However, an extreme case of 'job hopping,' such as one every year or even several times a year, definitely won't reflect well on your resume, especially if you are under 30. "This is because a company also spends a considerable amount on training new employees and is always looking at reducing employee turnover. In such a case, one look at your resume, and they may run in the other direction," says Kesarwani.

Circumstances that demand a job change and those that don't -
Some circumstances may warrant a job change, but others can be remedied. "The reason to get you to switch needs to be big -- reasons like lack of opportunities for growth, a move necessitated for family/ health reasons, need for a better salary, etc. Alternatively, you may know for sure that the new company is a great place to work in," says Pankaj Sharma, 27, an independent recruitment consultant in Delhi.

Questions to ask yourself -
Ask yourself the following questions regarding where you are at present (and be honest with your answers):

  • Do I really like my current job?
  • Do I enjoy working with my colleagues?
  • If I stay here, where will I be in two years time?
  • Could I be earning more elsewhere?
  • What are the intangible benefits of working here?
  • Is the technology one that I would like to align myself with in the future?

Answer the questions using these broad parameters

  • Job quality (Is this what I want to do?)
  • Growth prospects (Can I stay in this job? Can I move up?)
  • More money (How much is enough?)
  • Mental stimulation
  • The importance of money


Money is good stuff -- it pays for nice vacations, cool cars, education for your children, etc. Don't discount the money factor, especially if others are depending on you.

"No matter what any one says, money does buy happiness. When you accumulate a significant amount as a buffer between yourself and poverty, and stop living one pay cheque at a time, your life completely changes. You gain the freedom to pursue other avenues, like your own business, a career change, a personal project, or a mentally enriching educational experience. Such freedom is an incomparable source of happiness and tranquility, and only money can grant it," says Kesarwani.

However, if the new place totally rocks, you might consider working there and even taking a salary cut to jump ship if your current job is indeed a living nightmare.

Do a cost-benefit analysis -
Let's say you take home Rs 30,000 per month. You are offered a 20 per cent salary hike in the new job and see yourself now taking home Rs 36,000 a month. What will that extra Rs 6,000 a month (= Rs 72,000 a year) do for you?

Will you blow it all on a plasma TV, stash it all in savings for an early retirement, eat out two or three more times a week, or go partying with your friends?

What is the bottomline impact on your lifestyle that this raise will give you? How will this raise impact your work environment? Keeping in mind that you work eight hours or more a day, are these extras worth the anxiety and the risk involved in switching jobs? What risks do you have if you stay in your current job? In short, what is the opportunity cost?

To cut to the chase, don't move only for financial reasons unless you're going to earn significantly more. appiness, in terms of liking what you are doing and feeling that you are accomplishing something, is much more important. Eventually, the money won't be motivation enough to continue with the new job.

Weigh the risks -
Consider this -- you already know what your current job is like and you like it. You know the people and get along with your colleagues, who are interesting people. Your boss treats you well.

The new place might be even better and the offer may be 20 per cent more than what you're getting now. The people might all be nice, or there may be a few nut cases and backstabbers there. Your boss may steal the credit for the work you do.

"Switching is a big risk; you are going out into the unknown. Chances are, the new place can be worse," says Sharma, who has experienced this himself.

"Verify everything the potential boss tells you. Bosses try to make the job sound attractive in the same way that job applicants try to make themselves sound good," says Dutt.

If you don't really want to quit -
"The first step is to analyse why, and whether or not you really want to leave. Is it just because of one thing, such as a low salary or an interpersonal conflict? If so, you must communicate that to your manager and HR department. It could be better to first consider options such as moving to another department, or negotiating a
salary hike rather than leaving the organisation," feels Dutt.

Most problems at the workplace can be solved if both parties are willing to solve them. "A three-month trial can be experimented with to see if the situation can be resolved. Just like problems take time to develop, their solutions also take time to work," says Kesarwani.

Keep your relationship with your colleagues and your company intact -
The way in which you carry yourself during your transition can have a great impact on your career. It says as much about you professionally as the impression you had made on your first day. The people who you work with will make it a point to note your behaviour. If it is anywhere inappropriate or negative, the word can spread quickly. Keep in mind that this group you leave includes potential references.

"Your last impression is just about as important as your first. It's vital to break away without any ill feeling, and leave behind an impeccable record. It's a small world and it could just happen that you work with, or for, the very same people again," says Sharma.

So, it's important to leave on positive terms. Display professionalism. The right attitude is critical to building bridges, and not burning them, when you are at the threshold of assuming a new position.

The guilt factor -
"Only three months into my first job, I landed a new opportunity offering me 30 to 40 per cent more than my current job. I felt really bad leaving my current job and disappointing the people that gave me a chance to work there," says Dutt.

"As for feeling bad about leaving, don't get all flustered about it. Everyone needs to grow, and employers themselves are aware of that," says Sharma. "The key for you is to determine whether it's the wrong job, the wrong employer, or the wrong career. Once you have made that decision, the ideal scenario is to locate a new job while you are still employed. Then, if you think what you get is better than your current job, don't feel guilty -- take it. They'll understand.

26 May, 2007

Love Reason [touching]



Love Doesn't need a Reason [Touching]

- Do you love me? Why? give reasons, not proof -

Lady : Why Do you like me .. ? Why Do you Love me..?
Man : I can't tell the reason. But I really like you...
Lady : You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you.
Man : Ok..ok Erm... because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet, because you are caring,
because you are loving, because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile, because of your every movements.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer. Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went into the coma stage.

The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content -
  • Darling,
    Because of your sweet voice that I love you...Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
    Because of your care and concern that I like you. Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you. Because of your smile, because of your every movement that I love you...Now can you smile? Now can you move? No, therefore, I cannot love you. If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.
    Does love need a reason? NO!
    Therefore, I still love you. And love doesn't need a reason.

Relationships are hard to handle, might even seem impossible at times.

There will be many fights and many quarrels, many disagreements and many tears.The easiest thing would be to give up.But if we spent half the energy we use in fighting with each other, and spend that energy in fighting to keep the relationship strong, then that is love.

Remember, in a relationship, giving up is not the solution Disagreements, fights and quarrels will always be there. But you must always fight harder to stay together. Some fights are truly worth fighting! SMILE !

Stay Young - 10 Tips



- Tips for : How to Stay Young -
  1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height.Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay “them!”
  2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
  3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.”
  4. Enjoy the simple things.
  5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
  6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
  7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
  8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable,improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
  9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
  10. Tell the people that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

25 May, 2007

Love SmS - II



- Love SmS Collection -
  • Don’t love a friend like a flower
    Don’t love a friend like a flower,
    Because a flower dies in season.
    Love them like a river,
    Because a river flows forever.


  • What is gr8 love ?
    What iS gr8 love ?
    Its wen u hide tears n still care 4 her .
    Its wen she ignores u n u still LOVE her .
    Its wen she begins love someone else
    n u still SMILE.


  • Chand say pocha shandni ka raaz kia hay
    Humne Chaand se pooha
    teri Chaandni ka raaz kya hai?
    Chaand ne aapki taraf Ishara
    kar ke kaha, Inhi say pucho jisay
    dekh kar mein chamakta hoon.


  • When somebody who is deeply in love
    When somebody who is deeply
    in Love with you tells that
    You are cure, beautiful, & angelic,
    I agree. That’s true, Beleive me,
    I swear because love is definitely blind.


  • So dream hope and love…Makes Life Beautiful.
    Life ends when you stop dreaming,
    hope ends when you stop believing
    and love ends when you stop caring.
    So dream hope and love…Makes Life Beautiful.


  • Paani k bulbule sa hai mera pyar
    Mere pyaar ka hisaab jo lagao gi,
    To mere pyar ko bay hisaab pao gi,
    Paani k bulbule sa hai mera pyar,
    Zara si thees lagi to dhundte reh jao gi.


  • Your words of love steal
    Your words of love steal
    someone’s heart,
    but you don’t know that your
    heart is already stolen by me,
    check it!


  • Kafi hai husn dil ko behlane ke liye
    Kafi hai husn dil ko behlane ke liye,
    mohabbat karlo dil ko dukhane ke liye,
    chahe bhale paray ghum se vasta,
    ek hum jaisa dost rakhna sab ghamon ko bhulanay k liye.


  • 1000 words I could say,
    1000 words I could say,
    1000 wishes I could pray,
    1000 miles legs could walk,
    1000 sounds a mouth could talk,
    1000 times i’ll b true,
    1000 ways 2 say i love you!


  • Without Love -- Days are:
    "Sadday, moanday, tearsday,
    wasteday, thirstday, frightday,
    shatterday. So be in Luv everyday.
    Wish u a Happy Valentine's Day.


  • Life ends when you stop dreaming, hope ends when you stop believing and love ends when you stop caring. So dream hope and love...Makes Life Beautiful.
  • Time will always fly, but our love will never die. Keep in touch and remeber me.
  • When time comes for u to give ur heart to someone, make sure u select someone who will never break ur heart, cuz broken hearts has never spare parts.
  • I m going to write on all the bricks I MISS U and i wish that one falls on ur head,so that u knows how it hurts when u miss someone special like u.
  • If 10 people care 4 u, one of them is me, if 1 person cares 4 u that would be me again, if no 1 cares 4 u that means i m not in this world.
  • I m feeling so happy, do u know why? cuz i m so lucky, do u know how? cuz God loves me.Do u know how? cuz he gave me a gift. Do u know what? its YOU my love.
  • 1st time i saw u i was scared 2 touch u.1st time i touched u i was scared 2 kiss u.1st time i kiss u i was scared to luv u.but now dat i luv u im scared 2 lose u.
  • If i were a tear in ur eye i wood roll down onto ur lips.But if u were a tear in my eye i wood never cry as i wood be afraid 2 lose u.
  • I love all the stars in the sky, but they are nothing compared to the ones in your eyes.
  • If a raindrop would mean.. I love you and you would ask me how much I love you, i bet you that it would rain all day.
  • Love is sweet poison. Do not consume without your beloved's advise and keep out of reach of children .. and keep it in cool and dark place.
  • WHAT IS LOVE? L for Land of Sorrow. O for Ocean of Tears. V for Valley of Death. E for End of Life. Miss u all time.
  • L O V E : L = Lake of Sorrows. O = Ocean of Tears. V = Valley of Death. E = End of life.
  • Har aahat ehsas hamara Dilaegi, har hawa kissa hamara sunaegi,
    Hum itni yaade bhar denge aap k Dil me, na chahte hue bhi aap ko yaad hamari aaegi.
  • They learned me that one hours equals 60 minutes and that one minute equals 60 seconds, but they never told me that one second without you can last for ever.
  • If i could be any part of U Id be ur tear,To be conceived in ur heart born in ur eyes... Live on ur cheeks and die on ur lips.
  • Love knows no reasons love knows no lies,love defies all reasons love has no eyes... But love is not blind,Love sees all but doesnt mind.
  • Love has its ups and downs, its twists and turns. Love leaves you pain, teaches u until you learn and even if love takes so long, it always takes you to where you belong.

Interview Prepare - Tips


Hello Friends. Here are some tips for facing the Interview in Good Manner -

  • Dress appropriately in simple - comfortable clothes that reflect your personality.
  • Avoid wearing new shoes (squeaking noises) and do practice wearing your tie.
  • Be punctual - don't be late or even too early.
  • Read up about the company - what business they are into, growth trends, diversification etc
  • Read your own resume - be sure that you don't have to look into your resume to recall details during the interview.
  • Carry extra copies of your resume and testimonials - you never know when you may need them.
  • Make sure you know the full name and designation of the person interviewing you.
  • Keep your references ready.
  • Remember to make a note of your previous or current salary with all its components.
  • Make a good first impression.
  • Wish the interviewer(s) cheerfully and with a smile.
  • A firm handshake is an indicator of how you are feeling. If you are a lady, then some male employers might not make the first move, but go ahead and initiate the handshake.
  • Wait till you are asked to sit down.
  • Look the person in the eye.
  • Do not appear too nervous or overconfident - Your body language usually conveys more than what you are saying. Don't slouch or lean forward too much.
  • Try to curb nervous mannerisms [eg. fidgeting or biting your finger.]
  • Appear comfortable, confident and interested in securing the job.

During the interview -

  • Start the interview with a pleasant smile.
  • Always remember to give a firm handshake. If there are women in your interview panel, wait for the other person to extend the hand while shaking hands.
  • Listen carefully to what the interviewer is saying.
  • Stress on what you can contribute to the organisation.
  • Remember that the employer is in control of the interview.
  • Don't be too long-winded, say what you want to convey in crisp sentences and use terms that would convey your job & achievements.
  • Complete your sentences - don't answer just yes or no.
  • What you don't know can be learned, tell them if you don't know something. But give instances of how quick a learner you are.
  • Do not boast. People on the other side are shrewd and can generally see through you. At the same time talk about achievements giving due credit to others.
  • When talking about yourself and your aspirations, do not sound vague or do not say that you don't know something. You should be very clear and precise about what you want to do, where you want to go etc.
    If you don't understand a question, ask for clarification, don't answer vaguely.
  • Don't talk about your personal problems, why you need the job etc.
  • Don't get personal, even if you know the interviewer personally.
  • Don't be overconfident or too nervous.
  • Don't badmouth your previous employer - you could do the same in the case of the prospective customer.
  • Don't complain about politics, a bad boss or a poor salary - your reasons for change should be higher responsibilities, location etc.
  • If the interviewer is interrupted during the course of the interview, don't pick up papers on his/her desk and read them.
  • Don't ask about salary before the offer is made.
  • Strike a balance between what you actually are and what you want to be, don't paint a picture of yourself as somebody who is not concerned about money, social status etc.
  • Don't be in a hurry to complete the interview.
  • Ask questions at the end of the interview, it could be about the company, the job or the next stage of the interview process. It will be an indicator of your interest in the position.
  • Send a thank-you letter, outlining your interest in the job and why you are qualified for it.

    Be Positive and Confident - And the Job is yours. Best of Luck!

24 May, 2007

Weight Loss Tips


- Weight Loss Tips and Advice -

  1. Stretch your meals to, at least, 20 minutes or longer. Your stomach, mouth and brain are all connected and it takes 20 minutes of chewing before your stomach signals your brain that you are full. To feel full and successfully lose weight on any weight loss program, you need to eat slowly for 20 minutes or longer.

  2. Drinking 8 glasses of water a day is important to your health, your normal diet and to help lose weight. Water is necessary for the metabolism of your stored fat. Weight loss cannot occur without an active metabolism which requires large quantities of water. Another way to use water to lose weight is to drink a large glass of ice water just before meals. The cold causes your stomach to shrink slightly which will make you feel full faster.

  3. The more positive your self-esteem, the better you feel about yourself, the faster and easier it will be for you to lose weight. When you are self-confident, you are better able to take charge of your life. It also means that after you lose weight, it will stay gone permanently.

  4. When you go fat free or low fat, you also cut out much of the taste of the foods you eat. Add the flavor back with herbs and spices. Strong flavors such as vinegar, garlic, chili powder, cayenne, curry powder, rosemary and tarragon can be used to doctor up any food you are eating. For your low fat and fat free diets, experiment with different herbs and spices until you find some you like. Staying on your fat free or low fat diet will be easier and your weight loss will be speeded up.

  5. Increase your metabolism by as much as 40% by using hot and spicey foods such as hot peppers of all varieties and mustards. Research shows these foods all increase your metabolism. For double duty, give up fat filled mayonnaise for mustard and add hot peppers to your food for greater flavor and increased metabolism.

  6. Negative emotions will also interfere with your weight loss program. It's difficult to stay motivated to lose weight when you feel bad. Overeating often accompanies negative emotions such as depression, anxiety, fear, guilt and anger. If this is true for you, begin a stress management program including some exercise and relaxation exercises.

  7. To lose weight faster, reduce your intake of caffeine. Caffeine leads to an increase of insulin in your body which retards the burning of your stored fat.This is a simple chemical reaction in your body that you can change. Reduce your caffeine intake by 50% and see what happens. Here is a rough guide to use when looking at the amount of caffeine you currently take in: Brewed coffee (6 oz. cup) - 100mg; Instant coffee (6 oz.) - 70mg; Tea (6 oz.) - 50mg; Soft drinks (12oz.) - (Coke, Dr. Pepper, Mountain Dew) - 50mg; Dark chocolate (1 oz.) - 20mg and Milk chocolate (1 oz.) - 6mg.

  8. Incease your intake of fiber rich foods. They will help fill you up faster and will help all the food you eat pass through your digestive system more easily.

  9. Exercise is probably the most important key to increasing your metabolism and burning off excess fat. Research shows that you burn more stored fat for energy when you do aerobic exercises on an empty stomach than on a full stomach. Research also shows that you burn more stored fat when you exercise late in the day rather than in the morning. Put together, the best time to exercise to lose weight by burning your stored fat is in the late afternoon/early evening before dinner. Second best is in the morning before breakfast. Our metabolism naturally starts to slow down about 8 hours after we wake up. Thirty minutes of aerobic exercises in the evening, before dinner, will not only burn off stored fat but it increases your metabolism for about two to three more hours just when it was starting to slow down. This produces a significant increase in fat burned off, even after the exercise is over.

  10. To lose weight quickly, never skip a meal. Your first meal after waking starts your metabolism. Your metabolism then speeds up for about eight hours and then starts slowing down until you go to sleep when it goes to low until you wake and eat and start the cycle again. Skip breakfast and your metabolism doesn't get started until lunch time. You've just missed three or four hours of fat burning time. When you skip meals during the day, your metabolism also slows down. Weight loss through the burning of stored fat is all about eating enough of the right kinds of foods so you stay full and your metabolism stays as high as possible. Remember, if you feel hungry, your metabolism slows down. Stay full with healthy, nonfattening foods and your metabolism will continue to burn your stored fat as fast as your body will allow.

Skin & Face - Tips

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- Tips for beautiful skin & face -
  1. Drink at least 8 glasses of water every day.
  2. Cut some beet root into small pieces and grind them. Squeeze juice from beet root and massage to your face for 5 minutes. Shower after 10 minutes with mild soap or gram flour.
  3. Mix sandalwood powder with rose water and add 4 to 5 drops of milk in it and apply on to your face and body. Shower after 15 minutes with warm water.
  4. Mix honey in water and drink daily in the morning to keep your skin shiny and smooth.
  5. Warm honey and mix with lemon juice and apply on to face. Wash after it dry.
  6. Mix Turmeric, sandal powder and olive oil and apply to body. Shower after 10 minutes.
  7. Massage your skin with milk. Milk has moisturizer, it will keep your skin smooth.
  8. Use humidifiers and keep room temperature moderate to keep your skin away from dryness.
  9. Hot water blushes your skin and you don't feel fresh unless you have bath with little cold water. If you have shower for a longtime, dead skin will be automatically be removed. Do not rub with towel, be gentle on your skin.
  10. Take food which contains more A and C vitamin.
  11. Grate carrot and boil. Massage that mixture to body to get fair and smooth skin.
  12. For natural bleaching: - mix milk and lemon juice. The milk will break as soon as you mix the lemon juice in it. Use that mixture to massage on your body. It works as natural bleaching.
  13. Mix turmeric and cream on the top of milk, massage that mixture to body.
  14. If you go into sun your skin will lost the fair ness. To get your skin color to normal take equal quantities of cucumber juice and tomato juice and apply on to skin. Shower after 10 minutes.
  15. Massage mustard oil to your skin for 5 minutes and have shower with gram flour or mild soap.
  16. Mix cream on the top of milk and all-purpose flour and apply that paste on to your skin avoid eyes, eyebrows and lips. Shower after 5 minutes. This will make skin smooth.
  17. Mix curds (yogurt) with wheat flour and apply to your skin and take shower after 5 minutes.
  18. Grind rose petals and mix with cream on the top of milk and apply to your body. Shower after 10 minutes.
  19. Scaly skin is a result of fluorine deficiency. Fluorine is the anti-resistant element of the human body, the absence of which creates problems in the blood and spleen. Since cooking and heating foods deastroys fluorine, it is better to eat uncooked raw fruits and vegetables. Other foods rich in fluorine are goat milk and cheese, rye flour, avocados, sea plants and cabbage, cream whey and cottage cheese.
  20. Wrinkle skin is a result of Sodium deficiency and makes skin sticky. Cucumbers are ideal for combating and preventing sodium deficiency because they are not only high in sodium, but also help in keeping the body cool, a great summers treat.
  21. Skin rashes are the result of silicon deficiency. To avoid pus and rashes, eat plenty of sprouts, alfalfa, barley, tomatoes, spinach, strawberries and figs.
  22. Skin eruptions are the result of Chlorophyll. And are found in wheat grass and other green leafy vegetables.

23 May, 2007

Signs of Pregnancy


Scene from a typical Indian movie: A demure lady is enjoying dinner with the rest of the family. Suddenly, she cups her mouth and rushes to the bathroom where she empties the contents of her stomach.

All the faces around her explode into big grins. The family doctor is immediately summoned. He checks the lady's pulse and pronounces, "Mub@rak ho, tum maa banne waali ho (Congratulations! You are going to be a mother)." Don't you wish it were that simple in real life! Unfortunately, no doctor in the world can tell if you are pregnant by merely checking your pulse. But you might be able to recognise one of these five early signs of pregnancy.

  1. A missed period -
    This might be one of the first signs of pregnancy you actually notice. If you have regular cycles you may be able to detect that you are pregnant when you miss your period. This is one of the most reliable signs of being pregnant.
    Scientific basis: A period occurs when the body stops producing progesterone (a hormone that plays a special role in the female menstrual cycle and in pregnancy) temporarily. This causes the uterus to shed its lining. When you become pregnant your body starts producing a lot of progesterone to sustain the baby. There is no progesterone withdrawal and no period. Period.
  2. Abdominal bloating and breast tenderness -
    If your periods are not very regular it might be a little tough to notice a missed period. Abdominal bloating is another sign to look out for. Dr Anjali Rajurkar, an obstetrician from Mumbai, offers this tip, "If you have been trying to get pregnant and your jeans suddenly feel snug check if you are exhibiting other signs of pregnancy". Further, you might notice that your breasts have suddenly turned sore and sensitive.
    Scientific basis: Both abdominal bloating and breast tenderness result from the high levels of hormones your body starts producing when you become pregnant.
  3. Fatigue and sleepiness -
    You just woke up and had a cup of coffee. But you can't wait to go back to bed again. You feel tired all the time. Well, most pregnant women experience a high degree of fatigue and sleepiness in their first trimester.
    Scientific basis: No one knows for sure why this happens. But experts believe that the high levels of progesterone in your body might be responsible for this feeling of exhaustion.
  4. Nausea and vomiting -
    Finally! And you thought we would never mention it.
    For some women nausea is one of the first symptoms of pregnancy. They start feeling unusually queasy and certain odours become very repulsive. Though the nausea and vomiting you experience in the first trimester of pregnancy is called morning sickness, it could occur at any time of the day. It is often triggered by meals. But if you do not have any nausea during the first trimester, do not panic. You might be one of the lucky few who escapes this ordeal entirely.
    Scientific basis: Again, blame it on your hormones. Experts believe that high levels of human chorionic gonadotropin, a hormone vital for the sustenance of pregnancy, causes morning sickness.
  5. Bleeding -
    Some women experience a small amount of vaginal bleeding when they become pregnant. When the fetus implants itself on the wall of the uterus this can happen. The bleeding is extremely light and might last a couple of days. In any case, if you spot vaginal bleeding, contact your obstetrician to rule out other causes.

Should you take a test?
The five signs detailed above are physical signs or symptoms. It is important to remember that some women might not experience many of the early symptoms of pregnancy, except for the missed period. You need not wait to experience all these symptoms before you take a pregnancy test. If you have been trying to conceive and you feel a couple of the above symptoms you could try taking a pregnancy test.

A word of caution: Over eagerness to get pregnant might make you take the tests too often leading to frequent disappointments if they turn out negative. It is natural to be curious but try and wait for a few signs before you turn to the test.

The pregnancy test -
A home pregnancy test is one of the easier ways to test if you are pregnant. These kits are available over the counter at most medical stores. The directions are clear and easy to follow. The test takes two minutes and is pretty reliable too. All it requires is a drop of urine.

If your test is positive it might be a good idea to repeat the test with your nearest lab and then schedule an appointment with your obstetrician.

If it is negative, remember that the test is not highly sensitive and might become positive only a week after the missed period. So if you have not had a missed period perform the test after you do.

Heartbreak - 20 Solutions


Have you, at any point in your life, suffered a broken heart? Those waves of intense grief, emptiness, sadness, anger, confusion, heaviness and low self-esteem?
Depending on the kind of person you are and the situation, break-ups can be traumatic enough to affect your emotional and physical health.
They may say that no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way, at least initially.
Most people will tell you that you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but it seems easier said than done.

There are strategies that can lessen the pain. Here are 20 steps that can help -
  1. Be aware of your real intentions -
    Do you want to move past the break-up. Or do you harbour hopes of getting back with your ex? Define your emotional goal. You can't move on until you've truly accepted that the relationship is over.
  2. Make a clean break -
    Don't do the 'on-again-off-again' routine. It will only prolong the inevitable. Also, resist the urge to call your ex.
    How do you know if you are over your ex? That's the million-dollar question. A good indication is when you no longer want to get back together with the person. Additionally, when the thought of your ex having a relationship with someone else doesn't affect you. Although you might not necessarily be 'happy' for him/her, but if you have gotten over your ex, you won't care either way.
  3. Don't get self-destructive -
    Getting angry (or desperate), trying to hurt yourself or someone else, drinking or taking drugs to become numb and feel better, or locking yourself up in a dark room are not going to do anything to help your situation. These things don't actually deal with the pain, they only mask it, which only prolongs the sadness.
  4. Share your feelings -
    It could be with a friend or family member. Talking is a great way to cleanse your soul and ease your tension.
  5. Cry it out -
    Getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help, so it's okay to cry as much as needed, irrespective of whether you are a a guy or a girl.
  6. Give your heart time to heal -
    It takes time for sadness to go away. This depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks -- and sometimes even months.
  7. Keep yourself busy -
    This can be difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. Just make sure you busy yourself with positive activities like doing projects around the house, going on a trip, exercising, friend-time and focusing on studies or work. Don't get self destructive and at all costs avoid excesses of any kind.
  8. Watch a movie -
    To distract yourself, choose a comedy that has cheered you up before. Or watch one that's guaranteed to make you sob -- you might be surprised how good that makes you feel.
  9. Take a holiday/vacation or weekend off -
    Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. It recharges your batteries. It also gives you some time to think and find closure in a different setting.
  10. Surround yourself with friends -
    Interacting with others will help you in resuming a normal life balance. It may open up opportunities for new friendships too. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships.
  11. Remind yourself of your good qualities -
    Often people with broken hearts blame themselves for what happened. Getting your self-esteem back on track is the key to your recovery.
  12. Focus on yourself -
    You're going through a tough time, so do the things that make you feel good again. Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day, dance, or go shopping. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimise stress and depression.
  13. Improve yourself -
    This is an opportunity to make a journey into self-discovery. Discover what you want from life and go after it.
  14. Get rid of the memories -
    Do your mourning and then put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Return it to them, throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely. Get rid of anything that keeps you in the past, if it hurts.
  15. Learn from the break-up -
    Take the positives from it, and even more importantly, learn from the negatives. There's nothing worse than dragging your negative habits along with you to future relationships, because you'll just end up with the same result until you learn from your mistakes.
  16. Get out -
    Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling depressed. Go for a cup of coffee or a long walk.
  17. Move on -
    People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behaviour is normal in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. Remember that the end is just the beginning. Visualise your future, block out the past. Pick up the pieces and go after the kind of life and relationship you deserve.
  18. Don't punish your next partner -
    Judge future relationships on their own merits. Don't let paranoia from the past enter the present. If you live in the past too much, you aren't ready to be in another relationship yet. Learn to trust again. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest.
  19. Consider getting professional help -
    Sometimes the sadness is so deep -- or lasts so long -- that one may need extra support. For a person who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a psychologist or counsellor or psychiatrist can be very helpful.
  20. Take charge -
    Find the courage to pull yourself out of this rut. Take charge of yourself and you will find that there actually is life after 'What's-His-Name' or 'What's-Her-Name'! You just need to make the decision so you can move on.

Take tiny steps each day and you will be amazed that you are starting to feel better. Lean on your friends and family, and remember, time will heal all wounds.

22 May, 2007

Love SmS


  • Love/Valentine SMS Collection
    Aap ki 1 MISS CALL ek din ki khushi
    Aap ka 1 SMS 1 week ki khushi
    Aap ki 1 CALL 1 month ki khushi
    Aap ki 1 MULAQAAT 1 year ki khushi
    Aur aap ka PYAR
    Umer bhar ki khushi
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  • Tum Tub Tuk Pyaar Se Pyaar Mut Karo Ki
    Pyaar Tum Se Pyaar Na Kare
    Pyaar KoItna Pyaar Karo Ki
    Pyaar Kisi Aur Se Pyaar Na Kare…
    ----------------------------
  • When i tell u here, i am
    when i tell u i care, i do...
    when i tell u i'll never Leave u, i wont.
    Sum it all...i'll b here, i'll never get tired
    of caring here 4u & i won't leave u.
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  • When it comes 2 luv,
    its hard 2 know if u have d right 1.
    Many lovers weep, and left in sorrow.y?
    Bcoz Words cant immortalize emotions.
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  • I ask God for a rose n he gave me flowers;
    I ask God for water n he gave me an ocean;
    I ask God for an angel n he gave me the best luv ever!
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  • Love is what I see in, your smile every day.
    Love is what I feel in, every touch you give.
    Love is what I hear in, every word you say.
    Love is what we share every day we live
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  • Bee love honey,
    Miss love money,
    Flower love due,
    But,
    I LOVE YOU
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  • Please come and sit beside me
    I have so much to say
    The words I have to share with you
    I need to speak today Dear.
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  • My heart for you will never break. My smile for you will never fade. My love for you will never end. I love you!
  • Kitna bhi chaho na bhol paoge
    Hum se jitna dur jao nazdik pao ge
    Humein mita sakte ho to mita do
    yaadein meri, magar..
    kya sapno se juda kar pao ge humein.
    ---------------------------------
  • Only the open heart receives
    LOVE
    Only the open mind receives
    WISDOM
    Only the open hand receives
    GIFTS
    and...
    Only the CUTE 1's receive
    MESSAGES From ME!
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  • I would never be tired of you even if I am with you all day long. In fact I grow to like you a little more every day. I love you.
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  • We cannot be together,
    But we'll never be apart,
    For no matter what life brings us,
    You’re always in my heart.
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  • Feelings are many but words are few, clouds are dark but sky is blue; Luv is a paper, life is glue, every thing is false, only My Luv is TRUE.

20 May, 2007

Good Relationship


- 10 Ways to Build a Good Relationship -

  • BE A MAN OF YOUR WORD
    A successful and strong relationship is one that is built on trust and dependability. If you tell a woman that you are going to do something, she will expect you to keep that commitment. Whether it's a date you've made for dinner, a promise to water her plants while she's on vacation, or a resolution to give up smoking, keeping a pledge is crucial in developing and nurturing a solid foundation for the future. Even if it is something that seems insignificant to you in the big scheme of things (i.e., returning a library book for her on your way home from work), a succession of forgetful moments will diminish her faith in you. Accordingly, if every time you promise to do something triggers a reaction on her part to have a Plan B just in case, it is only a matter of time before she starts seeking out a new companion with a better track record for reliability. Never make a promise unless it is one that you know you can keep.
  • SHOW HER RESPECT
    If you want to keep a special woman in your life, you need to not only let her know that you put her on a pedestal but that you are willing to defend her honor to be there. This means that you don't engage in gossip or divulge confidences, that you don't criticize or belittle her, and that your love life isn't an open book to anyone who's nosey. If up until now your priority has been to spend all your free hours with your football buddies, you may need to start rethinking your agenda. A woman who always takes second, third or last place to other relationships in your life isn't going to stay in the picture for very long. Showing respect also means fidelity to the relationship if you've both made a commitment to monogamy. If you can't stay faithful, you owe her the respect of freeing her to meet someone who will appreciate and honor the treasure that she is.
  • LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT THE DOOR
    The last thing a woman wants is a whiner who does nothing but bemoan the fact that all of her predecessors--and probably life in general--treated him badly. While it's one thing for her to be initially sympathetic, it's draining to listen to the same sob stories day after day. Keep in mind that the more time you spend dwelling on the past, the less energy you'll have to spend building a new future. This also goes for men who talk incessantly about past relationships that were good. Whether the split came about as the result of death or divorce, women don't like to compete with the Ghosts of Relationships Past.
  • ACCEPT HER AS SHE IS
    Maybe your beloved would look better if she lost a couple pounds. Maybe she should update that hairdo and go for something snazzier. Maybe she'd look better on your arm if she wore different clothes. If you find yourself keeping a list of all the things she should be doing, you may be looking for a makeover project instead of a girlfriend or future wife. What you need to ask yourself is whether your barrage of suggestions is really meant to help her or to reinvent her into someone who would better define who you think you are. Women--and men--want to know that they're loved for themselves, not for an idealistic image that may be difficult to obtain. There's a right way and a wrong way to recommend improvement. To imply that you could love her more if she didn't have quite so many flaws is definitely the wrong way.
  • DON'T BE POSSESSIVE
    Do you call your girlfriend every hour of the day? Do you demand a thorough accounting of what she’s doing and who she’s seeing whenever she’s not with you? Are you purposely driving a wedge between her and her family and friends so you won’t have to share her? Do you discourage her from doing activities she really loves because you resent that you’re not a part of it? If your behavior fits these descriptions, it’s not love; it’s obsession. In concert with the advice to treat your lady with proper respect, you need to allow her the freedom to have time to spend on herself. Jealousy and possessiveness are unhealthy in any relationship and communicate that you are insecure, clingy, and potentially violent if you’re not the center of attention.
  • DON'T RUSH ROMANCE
    If you want a strong love connection, you need to start out with an equally strong “like” connection. It’s easy to rush headlong into a permanent relationship when you’re more excited about the prospect of being half of a couple than in enjoying the journey of discovering the things you have in common. Even if you’re sure that this is truly love at first sight and you don’t want to waste any time getting her in bed or off to the altar, a partnership that is meant to last will have a better chance if the man and woman invest in the value of friendship with one another. Consider the qualities and traits you admire in the people to whom you are close and apply those same tests in picking the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.
  • PAY ATTENTION
    Being a good partner means being a conscientious listener. It means not talking about yourself so much that she can never get a word in edgewise. It means that when she hints she’d really like a certain sweater for her birthday you don’t go out and buy her a CD of your favorite R&B singer instead. It also means that you’re sensitive to her moods, that you take an interest in projects she’s doing at work or problems she’s currently having with her siblings, and that you actually notice (and take action) if you see that one of her tires is low or that she comments on a new restaurant she’d like to try. Pay attention to the calendar, too. Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions demonstrates that she’s important enough to you that you know how to plan ahead.
  • TRY NEW THINGS
    Show an open mind when it comes to trying out new foods, activities, or ideas. While the two of you don’t have to share the same passion for every single thing that comes along, she’s far more likely to accompany you to a monster truck rally someday if you’ve accompanied her to a performance of the ballet. The fact that you show the willingness and curiosity to see what something is about instead of flatly dismissing it as stupid will accrue huge points in the sensitivity department. Why? Men and women tend to interpret the rejection of an idea as a rejection of them personally, a condition that will only fester with the passage of time. It should also be understood between the two of you that if the new whatever isn’t a good fit, it won’t continue to linger as a bone of contention. Trying it once—and respecting the outcome— is the most that either of you can ask.
  • SHARE THE WORK
    In today’s society, there is no such thing as “a woman’s job” or “a man’s job.” The fact that both parties put in a full day of work shouldn’t mean that it’s always the female’s job to cook the meals, set the table, wash the dishes and do the laundry. You may not be a gourmet chef but that shouldn’t stop you from picking up and dishing out Chinese food. Your gender also shouldn’t inhibit you from running the vacuum cleaner, walking the dog, or helping put postage stamps on the wedding invitations.
  • CELEBRATE THE ORDINARY
    Too many couples make the mistake of only pulling out all the stops for each other on vacations and special holidays. The rest of the time, they’re taking each other for granted. While it’s easy to say, “I love you” against an exotic backdrop or go overboard buying presents on Valentine’s Day, a happy relationship is one that celebrates itself every day of the year. Buy her a card “just because.” Schedule date nights…and keep them! Give her a foot rub when she’s had a rough day. Bring her lunch in bed and a favorite DVD when she’s under the weather. Let her know on a regular basis that she’s not only the love of your life but also the best friend you could ever have. Most of all, remember that “happily ever after” isn’t a destination but a journey to be taken hand in hand and heart to heart.

19 May, 2007

Raise ur Self Esteem


Twelve Valuable Steps to Raise Your Self Esteem -

As adults, we can choose the messages we accept or reject. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."
Building high self-esteem is a process, not something you can develop overnight," says Jeffrey Keller. "Yet, I believe every person has the capacity of high self-esteem. The question is, are you ready to make a commitment to increase your self-esteem?"

If your answer is yes, here are 12 steps to get you started -
  • Step One
    Stop comparing yourself with other people. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat.
  • Step Two -
    Stop putting yourself down. You can't develop high self-esteem if you repeat negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.
  • Step Three -
    Accept all compliments with "thank you." Ever received a compliment and replied," Oh, it was nothing." When you reject a compliment, the message you give yourself is that you are not worthy of praise. Respond to all compliments with a simple Thank You."
  • Step Four -
    Use affirmations to enhance your self-esteem. On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as "I like and accept my self." or "I am valuable, lovable person and deserve the best in life." Carry the card with you. Repeat the statement several times during the day, especially at night before going to bed and after getting up in the morning. Whenever you say the affirmation, allow yourself to experience positive feelings about your statement.
  • Step Five -
    Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem. Whatever material you allow to dominate mind will eventually take root and affect your behavior. If you watch negative television programs or read newspaper reports of murders and business rip off; you will grow cynical and pessimistic. Similarly, if you read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics.
  • Step Six -
    Associate with positive, supportive people. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your self-esteem is lowered. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better about yourself in the best possible environment to raise your self-esteem.
  • Step Seven -
    Make a list of your past successes. This doesn't necessarily have to consist of monumental accomplishments. It can include your "minor victories," like learning to skate, graduating from high school, receiving an award or promotion, reaching a business goal, etc. Read this list often. While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success.
  • Step Eight -
    Make a list of your positive qualities. Are you honest? Unselfish? Helpful? Creative? Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities. Again, it's important to review this list often. Most people dwell on their inadequacies and then wonder why their life isn't working out. Start focusing on your positive traits and you'll stand a much better chance of achieving what you wish to achieve.
  • Step Nine -
    Start giving more. I'm not talking about money. Rather, I mean that you must begin to give more of yourself to those around your. When you do things for others, you are making a positive contribution and you begin to feel more valuable, which, in turn, lifts your spirits and raises your own self-esteem.
  • Step Ten -
    Get involved in work and activities you love. It's hard to feel good about yourself if your days are spent in work you despise. Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable. Even if you can't explore alternative career options at the present time, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities, which you find stimulating and enjoyable.
  • Step Eleven -
    Be true to yourself. Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. You'll never gain your own respect and feel good about yourself if you aren't leading the life you want to lead. If you're making decisions based on getting approval from friends and relatives, you aren't being true to yourself and your self-esteem is lowered.
  • Step Twelve -
    Take action! You won't develop high self-esteem if you sit on the sidelines and back away from challenges. When you take action - regardless of the ensuing result - you feel better about yourself. When you fail to move forward because of fear and anxiety, you'll be frustrated and unhappy - and you will undoubtedly deal a damaging blow to your self-esteem.

The "real you" is a magnificent, unique being with enormous potential and capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others. As your self-esteem grows, this "real you" emerges. You begin to take more risks and not be afraid of failure; you aren't as concerned with getting approval of others; your relationships are much more rewarding; you pursue activities that bring you joy and satisfaction; and you will make a positive contribution to the world. Most importantly, high self esteem brings you peace of mind .when you're alone, you truly appreciate the person you're with - yourself.

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